Is today’s woman yesterday’s hoe? Now before I begin let me say that I am not bashing women. If you read this blog and the only thing you take from it is that I’m saying all women are hoes then you have sadly missed the point. You must read this with an open mind and an honest heart. I’m merely attempting to briefly discuss the socialization of the modern woman (from a man’s point of view), and hopefully create dialogue and get people to understand that if we expect to evolve as a people, our thoughts and ideas have to evolve as well.
That Was Then, But When Was That?
Every woman has an image painted in their subconscious of how things used to be back in the “good ol days.” The man was an honest gentleman that loved his wife, was loyal to her and worked hard to provide for his family. The woman was the nurturer who took care of the household, supported her husband and raised the children. The father brung home the bacon and the mother cooked it (I don’t know about you turkeybaconsmellinbitches). When it came to dating or courting the woman, the man’s goal was to win her heart instead of just trying to split it and quit it. He would take the woman out on dates to show her a good time while getting to know her, opening all doors and pulling out her chairs the way a gentleman is supposed to. At the end of the date he would gladly handle the tab with no preconceived ideas of what she should have to do in return. After all, sex usually wasn’t even a thought until after marriage. Sounded like good times no? Well what happened?
Be Careful What You Wish For
On August 26th, 1920 The 19th Amendment of the Constitution granting women the right to vote was signed by Secretary of State Bainbridge Colby.
1921- Margaret Sanger founds the American Birth Control League, which evolves into the Planned Parenthood Federation of America in 1942.
1960- The Food and Drug Administration approves birth control pills.
1963- Congress passes the Equal Pay Act, making it illegal for employers to pay a woman less than what a man would receive for the same job.
1969- California becomes the first state to adopt a “no fault” divorce law, which allows couples to divorce by mutual consent.
My mama know
Now the simplest yet most intellectually irresponsible way to answer the “What happened” question would be to say that women won their freedom. They became “equal.” They changed the rules which ultimately changed the game. “Women won their rights but lost their respect.” Both for and from men. Allow me to explain. Think about the woman I described earlier. Not your Grandma but her grandma. Now picture today’s woman. Not a hood rat or bottom of the bucket type of bitch but the average ” good” woman of today. She has been socialized to WANT a man but understands that she no longer NEEDS one. She has a job or possibly even a career which means she makes her own money. Chances are she is also educated to some degree which increases her earning potential so providing for herself is no longer a concern. The evolution of women’s fashion has effectively turned the average woman into a sex symbol, so men (who are visual creatures) see all of this now visible skin and uncontrollably bombard her daily with compliments and unwarranted attention. Her self -esteem suffers from hyperinflation thanks to the feminist movement so it’s higher than it has ever been in the history of the world.There isn’t much a man can really tell a woman these days. She can vote which means she has a voice, has complete control over her body and has the power to decide if and when a man can become a father (when it comes to children men have little to no rights but “share” all of the responsibilities.) She has come to realize that there is really nothing she can’t do and seeks to prove just that. She is also most likely single and/or “dating” (juggling) men and saying something along the lines of “I can’t seem to find a man that can handle me.” Funny. “We’ve become competitors instead of companions.” Ever notice that the more a woman has going for herself these days the less chance she has of finding (and keeping) a man, but the bottom of the bucket bitch has no problem finding one for her and her kids? It seems as if women fought for years to become equal to men and now they struggle just to find a man that’s “equal to them.” In a world where they can now have almost anything they desire most women simply just want a man. The problem is, freedom is never free and equal rights don’t make you equal. Just ask any black man in America.
The fact is women are quick to point out how much men have changed over the years and rarely stop to take a look at how much they have changed themselves. You constantly hear women complain about how “men ain’t shit” as if we ever were. Man never had a movement. Women did. This is merely a negative reaction to their change. Women long for the days when “a man was a man” and fail to realize that in those days a woman was nothing like she is today. Men provided for and took care of their women because they had to. It was what a man was supposed to do. In the beginning of time man (humans) had to physically hunt and gather their food. Nature equipped man (men) with strength for this task and equipped women with the tools for nurturing the offspring. As humans evolved and became more civilized things began to change. In certain societies (Matriarchal) women were the rulers because it was understood that they were the bearers of life. Any man could impregnate a woman but it took a “real” woman to carry that baby to term and ultimately she held the key to create life. In other societies and cultures (Patriarchal such as our own) women remained “beneath” or second to men. Believed to be inferior to men in every facet of life women were provided for and taken care of by their “men.” If a man got a woman pregnant society held him accountable for her and their child because she had no way to provide for it or herself. Since women had no rights and couldn’t really work they had no choice but to stay home and tend to the house and kids. Let’s stop acting like women collectively agreed to stay home and raise the kids back in the day. The second they gained their freedom they stuck the kids in day care and ran off to work on their careers, goals and aspirations. That’s not to say they didn’t deserve to or that the times didn’t change and make it necessary for the husband and wife to both work. That’s just the point tho, times have changed.
The modern woman is like an inmate that was just released after serving 100 life sentences for a crime they didn’t commit. They are beyond free. It’s only right they would feel like saying fuck the system. That’s why a man can’t tell them shit. They will do what they want, say what they want, think what they want, and most importantly fuck who they want and you can’t do anything about it. You will not question them and you do not own them. She expects you to woo her, sweep her off of her feet and spend your money to do so while she keeps her own. She will also be free to “date” other men at the same damn time. She is going to compete with you for your job, make as much if not more than you and still expect you to “provide” for her. She will require your “security” even tho most of the laws are in her favor. If the cops get called, you go to jail. Don’t worry, if and when the time comes she won’t hesitate to prove it and show you where her loyalty lies. Unconditional love is reserved for her children but yo ass got some conditions. This is what today’s woman is selling and the problem is most men aren’t buying it. Oh yea and when it’s all said and done you will probably have alimony to look forward to. Hmmm let’s see. Alimony -an allowance paid to a person by that person’s former spouse for maintenance, granted by a court upon legal separation or divorce. Origin 1645-55 From the Latin – alimōnia meaning nourishment or sustenance. Basically, women continue to benefit from a law that was established in the 1600′s at a time when they couldn’t provide nourishment or sustain themselves. The law was created to ensure that their former spouse’s (who they basically belonged to and couldn’t leave unless he said so) wouldn’t just abandon them and leave them to rot out in the street.That’s pretty much the trend that ensues. Today’s woman wants the best of both worlds. They want the old world “chivalry” along with their new world freedom. They want to be treated like women as well as equals. It’s only right seeing how men have had it so “good” for so long right? I personally believe that all women deserve equal rights as do all men but I also realize that that doesn’t make them equal to men. The problem is women hear that and automatically take on an inferiority complex. Not equal does not mean less than. A woman is not “equal” to a man because she is simply not a man, she is a woman. They each have to have their own prospective place and roles in society in order for things to work the way nature intended. Women were so focused on their status that they lost some of their value. We also have to realize that we are living in a world so far from nature that it’s not even funny. We are living in the “future” when you really stop and think about it. We fly, cook without fire, travel through space to other planets and use Twitter all day on smartphones. This isn’t the 1600′s. Should we really still be using that template? Some of the rules from the past are outdated and need to be rewritten as the good bother Zo Williams would say. The definition of a woman has clearly changed, so should we just expect the definition of a man to simply stay the same? Men lost “control” and had a negative reaction to woman’s reaction to freedom. His queen now has sexual freedom and this is a shock to him. Such things were previously reserved only for him but now it appears as if he has to accept the fact that “these hoes is for everybody.” With all of this he’s supposed to just suck it up and be a man in a world that was already hard enough when he was just competing against men. Now he has to go up against women as well.Now I”m not bitching and saying it’s all the woman’s “fault,” men have a big role in this as well. We sat back and didn’t evolve with our women. I’m addressing that in my next blog “Niggas Ain’t Shit” so stay tuned. The point I am making here is the woman of today would probably have been stoned to death back in the days of “chivalry.” She would not have known her place and still would not have received the treatment she so strongly desires. There has never been a time in history where today’s would’ve been able to coexist peacefully with man. Women need to understand the power they have obtained and be responsible with it and men need to learn to find their place in today’s world in order to lead today’s woman. We all need to learn to evolve our emotions and transcend our thoughts. The days of looking in the past are done, it’s time we look towards the future before it’s too late. But what does Haz know, I’m just a nigga that smokes good weed when I can afford it. As always, Feel free to Follow
3 comments
Dee
July 26, 2012 at 8:59 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
So, I’ll wait for your next blog. I hope it includes why men favour disgusting women, disregard the character of a good woman, taking advantage of it as a matter of fact until the woman realizes the game, for women who treat them terribly and want beyond everything they can buy. I am interested in knowing why society determines a good man by his wallet, and material posessions, and what he could keep out of public view. I want to know why only women should be held accountable for their sexuality. Tell me again about the ‘liberation’ of women fashion, women who before the time of women voting, who was trained to compete for a man’s attention, wearing things that caused fainting and death just to get a man to look their way. Soo, about those things… there’s more, but I’ll wait.
Hey, did you know that poster “you can do it” was produced in the time of war when the women were left alone and forced to do men’s jobs, so society said, you have to be strong for your country? interesting huh? Forgive me, but I like the idea. Imagine the senario of a household dying because the man was too sick to function… only the women and children are there, what then? In the Bible women were created to be helpmeets meaning that we helped the man, after sin our desire is to be to our husband, meaning we still serve, but we are still helpmeets which is revealed in being a proverbs 31 woman who did work and invest and make decisions and have her own money and provide for her household? Women couldn’t vote then. I also like proverbs 31
So that cothing evolution thing…. did women initiate that? really? with all the drugs and sex going on at the time, where did it all come from. Sin is sin, don’t blame the regression of moral standards on the race who few break away from the training of ” doing-anything-’fairly acceptable’-to-secure-a-man” it would be interesting to research the influences behind fashion, and when, exactly, women entered.
There is so much in your article….from one point of view.
Tell me something,
Why can’t women be strong, and intellegent and respectful and submissive. Working, caring for children, cooking, balanced. Why is the only thing that determines the authority of a man (seemingly according to your article) is the finances. You think, because we can provide for ourselves, we don’t respect men? Maybe some in truth, but personally, the failed respect has nothing to do with finances in my book. Character counts buddy. You want to be the leader, so lead! For real, lead! Be a man! Do you have any idea how much certain types of women want to respect men and want them to lead? Problem is, so many men seem to think the only making of a good leader is being a man. “Baby i feel like eating eggs for breakfast,”
“Yea?”
“Yea.”
“Ok.” rolls out of bed, goes to the fridge “Baby there’s only one egg, why don’t you go to the store and get some more while I put on something else”
“Man, I ‘een into all o’ dat”
“Well how will you have eggs if you don’t get them?”
“Why you can’t go for them?”
….
this is today’s man for the most part. I can give you other senarios but if men would just be men, not wallets, not collectors, men… and learn the value of a good woman, and not just a good body or make-up . . . you’ll be surprised at how many women will abandon their wayward ways. They’ll have to compete on character and not sexiness.
I’m a woman and I believe in submission out of respect and love, but I’ve learned men don’t value such notions. I’ve learned that the more sexy, crafty, and fake I am, the more likely I will find a man. I’ve also learned that when its not like that, it a matter of making sexual compromises, or being verginal which leaves women who had a lapse of judgement in the past, but don’t make them anymore swimming upstream. I say leave me alone. I’d sincerely rather be by myself nowadays honestly. And I make effort in establishing that revolution to myself.
If you feel insecure because I have my own stuff, leave me alone. I say a real man wouldn’t worry that I’ve gained on my own, but say that this is a good physical foundation for our family and our children.
If you feel insecure because I have the capacity to think and ask questions leave me alone because I’m going to ask. If I know something you don’t seem to, I will advise you. If it pleases you more that I just shut up and follow dumbly then you’ll have a problem. If you do it anyway, I have a plan b when things get funky. Thats a good woman. and that’s not what men want, and it doesn’t seem like thats what you want.
I’m tired of typing, but I’ll just say, you know this whole frisky dating thing, many countries look on in disgust even as our countries follow dumbly into the immoral practices that wash over the media. Again, I say, leave me alone. A gentelman is always a gentlemant and how I’ve dressed shouldn’t determine if you will treat me like a lady. ‘gentleman’ who do that are likely wolves who konw how to put on a show……. the world seems to be overrun with wolves.
Trust me, there’s more, but i’m not interested. leave me be I say. leave me the hec alone.
G.
July 30, 2012 at 12:47 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
lmaoooo
Strong black woman
September 8, 2012 at 1:03 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Girl I must say you have a lot more growing to do. You have failed to realize so much here. Good luck with being the female from back in the day! How dare you say that women and men aren’t equal? What do you mean? In strength? Think about it this way….there are more woman in college, it’s easier for a woman to get a job over a man, a woman is the main provider to the children in other words she is well rounded! Why would a female give this up to a man that is working construction or at Walmart making half of what she does in order to make society work? Don’t think so.