Change your thoughts, change your life. Everyone has heard that and it resonates with most. I didn’t really fully grasp it until I actually put it into practice. We aren’t taught early on that thoughts are causes and our lives are the effects. For that reason, may people don’t know how to think or use their mind to produce a life they love living. Your thoughts determine your circumstances. When you allow the opposite to happen, your circumstances to influence your thoughts, you become engulfed in a never ending cycle of lack, limitation, and struggle. I have exercised my mind enough to rid me of depression, low self esteem, no self worth, and the need to relive any pain or harm I experienced during my adolescence. It took time and work but peace of mind is something I value because I have complete control over it. Here’s seven ways to help you change your mind so you can change your life:
- Affirmations – Affirmations are statements that encourage you to speak things into existence. Because it’s our emotion and feeling that most impacts how our thoughts manifest, I usually say them in the mirror or while I write them I visualize whatever conditions I am trying to bring about. I remember when I was teaching during nap time, I would take about ten different affirmations and write them ten times each. This imprints the statements in your mind until you’re compelled to act on them. Some example affirmations are, “I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul,” “I leap and the net appears.” “I can be what I will to be.” The purpose of affirmations is to empower you to take action.
- Read a Book! – I’ve always loved reading. Once I discovered how idle time and boredom led me to do things that weren’t always in my best interest, I decided to channel my energy and focus toward something productive. I have the kind of mind that constantly wanders. Because whatever goes through your mind most is what you experience, I want only thoughts of my desires, self awareness, and success dwelling in my mind. Reading allows me to choose material regarding one of those subjects and focus on it as opposed to over thinking about unimportant, irrelevant issues.
- Meditation – Meditation is the same as prayer. The only difference is that you’re completely still and focusing your mind on something. You can do that during prayer also but it wasn’t taught to me that way. I meditate for about 30 minutes a day. I sit completely still and think about what i want to experience. For example, if I have to go to work, I imagine a packed restaurant with me offering exceptional service and making a lot of money. Sounds simple right? It can be hard at first, especially if you’re a nervous person by nature like me. Try to just meditate for five minutes until you can manage to sit for longer. Focus on a quote or affirmation and picture yourself radiating nothing but positive vibes.
- Change your environment – One of the main reasons that the masses are so content with mediocrity and sometimes even less, is because they aren’t around enough people who have beat the odds and can show them that there is more to life. I came from humble beginnings but I want the option to have more. I would have saved a lot more time if I had someone who has been where I want to go guiding me years ago. Now I do my best to surround myself with people who have achieved something that I want in my future. I attend conferences, workshops, speeches, and watch YouTube and TedTalks all day to keep me close to those people.
- Think – There are days when all I do is think. I brainstorm about my future and reflect in my past. If something happened and I didn’t like how it happened, I find the silver lining. Everything teaches something, it’s on us to learn our lesson and apply. As we critically think, we can accept, make peace, and let that hurt go instead of holding on to it in our minds.
- Talk – My grandmother always told me if I didn’t have anything nice to say then I shouldn’t say anything. It’s so easy to get caught up in complaining and yes sometimes you just need to vent, but try to make the goal finding a solution. The more people you complain to, the more energy you are giving to what you don’t want and by giving it energy you’re increasing it’s presence in your life.
- Act – At the end of the day, your mind is where it all begins but you must act accordingly. If somewhere in your mind you know you can do better and you don’t, you’ll be at war internally. There will be times when you stray but what’s important is getting back on track when you can. Act according to who you want to be. Think of yourself five years from now, would you be doing what you’re doing now? If not save yourself some time and do something different today.
It’s said to take about 21 days to form a habit. Pick just one of these activities to adhere to for 21 days and watch your life transform. It may not happen quickly in the physical but you will feel it. Decide today to change your mind so you can change your life! Exercise the power of your mind, what you neglect you lose.
Desi is an expert encourager and silver lining seer who lives by the mantra, Don’t Ever Say Impossible. Connect with her on twitter @ImDesi, IG @DopeDesi, or email Desi@LoveLiveDesi.com!